Domestic violence is largely a hidden crime masked in shame, blame, fear and politics. It is claimed that it is mostly perpetrated against women and children by men however this is not the case. The reality is that despite what people are led to believe in the media, most relational violence and aggression is reciprocal. It is true that men are generally stronger than women and therefore in an altercation between a man and a woman, the woman is most likely to come off worse, that is not what generally happens. Men tend to show restraint while women tend not to. Men are also far less likely to report their spouses for domestic abuse and sadly, women do use courts and police to punish their spouses by bearing false witness against them. Furthermore, children are the most vulnerable people in society, not women, and women commit far more domestic abuse against children and more often than not, with impunity. Children are unlikely to report their primary single parents for abuse, neglect or exploitation, (see captive person syndrome or Stockholm syndrome to understand this). Furthermore, women have privileges with respect to prosecution and imprisonment at all levels. Comparing men and women for the same crimes, Women are less likely to be arrested and if arrested they are less likely to be prosecuted, and if prosecuted they are likely to receive a non-custodial sentence and if they receive a custodial sentence it is likely to be shorter.

Domestic violence, regardless of what the feminist movement would have us believe, should not be a political issue used to grant power to one group over another. Instead, to protect children and the innocent, gender profiling bourn out of sociopolitical deception and pandering needs to be abandoned. All abuse cases should be judged on a case-by-case basis rather than as it is, via prejudices against men and privilege for women where women should be believed regardless of evidence or even despite evidence against them. Men and women should both be equal under the law, equally recognised as potential perpetrators and given equal opportunities to access Anger Management and refuges. 

This type of abuse can take many forms including:

• Violent Attacks
• Sexual Abuse and Rape
• Restraining and Imprisoning
• Humiliation
• Destruction of Property
• Fear and Intimidation
• Unreasonable and Overbearing Control
• Emotional abuse

The statistics concerning Domestic violence perpetrated by current or ex-partners are unreliable since as a crime it largely goes unreported and only is recorded when police or other agents of the law are involved. If you are in or have been in an abusive relationship Therapy can help you. If you are the perpetrator of abuse, Anger Management and Therapy can also help you. Therapy is a safe non-judging relationship in which anyone can work to improve their relationship with themselves, others and the world.

Counselling and Psychotherapy can help

• Victims
  • Increase self-esteem, courage and motivation to change the nature of their relationships or end an abusive relationship.
  • Understand why perhaps there may have been a string of abusive relationships and change the nature of relating to self which may allow or encourage such relationships to form
  • Undo the emotional damage done by abuse or at least help come to terms with it
  • Raise self-empowerment, self-respect, self-belief, self-reliance, courage, resilience, and self-love.
• Perpetrators
  • Overcome the need to use oppression, abuse and violence as a means of getting needs met
  • Understand what is being expressed through abuse
  • Improve self-respect
  • Overcome stress, frustration and resentment
  • Improve relational and communication skills
• Children
  • Break the cycle of abuse by helping children understand the true nature of healthy relationships for themselves and others
  • Provide a safe place to express their emotions, fears, concerns and needs.
  • Improve self-esteem and self-awareness
  • Provide healthy and timely outlets for stress and frustration
  • Improve relational and communication skills

Therapy has much to offer with respect to all forms of relational difficulties and there is no need to suffer in silence or live in fear. Please feel free to Contact Us to confidentially discuss your needs.

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