Choosing a Counsellor or Anger Management Specialist
Therapists: Counsellors, Stress or Anger management Specialists, Couple Counsellors.
In a very basic way one can divide Therapists into two groups, Active and Passive and within those two groups, two further sub-groups, the skilled and effective and the unskilled and ineffective.
Passive Therapists/Counsellors/Specialists
Sadly, the vast majority of therapists take a passive approach. While under some circumstances this may be useful and appropriate, however, as a universal general approach it is often ineffective and leaves clients needing more and feeling as though they are beyond help. Passive approaches or therapeutic models including Person Centred Counselling, Other Centred Counselling, etc. are based on the principle that it is the Client that has all the answers to their issues and all that a therapist needs to do is create a healthy and inviting environment for them to grow and discover their answers. However, in reality, this is fallacious. As with most other things, much that is life, including forming and maintaining healthy relationships, Work, Careers, child-rearing, etc. requires great skill. Skills that the majority have never been taught and therefore do not have, and no matter how encouraging the environment or how much they are coaxed, they will not spontaneously discover for themselves.
Passive therapists tend to focus on the clients feelings and experience asking foolish things like, ‘How does that make you feel’? As if ones feelings exist outside oneself, subservient to the whims and influences of others. Outside of one’s own management or control. They also live in hope that they client will be eventually be spontaneously inspired into improvement whilst consuming client time money and resources often for years.
The truly sad thing about passive therapists is that the majority of them have no idea themselves of how to create and maintain healthy relationships, overcome Anxiety, Depression or Stress and therefore cannot help others achieve what they could not achieve for themselves. Many such therapists take the ‘wounded healer’ approach, which often just excuses a lack of skill in favour of a pretence of Empathy which in reality for them is Sympathy as they confuse a client’s experience with their own, projecting their own shortcomings and inabilities onto their clients as a form of ‘fate accompli’, an inevitability that one can do nothing about as if life is just that way… Which it is not.
Active Therapists/Counsellors/Specialists
There is world between Active and Passive Counsellors.
Is Therapy, Counselling or Anger Management useful to MEN?
The simple answer is that it depends, but generally NO.
That is not to say that men should not seek help, but rather that they should be careful from whom they seek such help.
Gynocentrism
Much that passes for therapy these days is Woman centred, or rather ‘Feminist’ centred. To utilise their language, Psychotherapy and Counselling has been colonised by the Feminist movement plasing Feminist Ideology at its core. While this may sound extreme, it is nonetheless true.
The Feminist colonisation of Psychology and Counselling and Psychotherapy and all related fields has changed its purpose from helping people with psychological and relational issues into defacto indoctrination into Feminist ideals. This can often be seen in the treatment of heterosexual male spouses within couple counselling.
If one were to pay attention to psychology, counselling and psychotherapy courses and what they teach and how they are taught one would notice a high amount of ‘Feminist’ and ‘Progressive’ political ideology being passed off as science and fact.
Is Therapy, Counselling or Anger Management useful to WOMEN?
Sadly, the same is true for Women as it is for men. The simple answer is that it depends, but generally NO.
Again, that is not to say that women should not seek help, but rather that they should be careful from whom they seek such help.
Given the reality that Counselling, Psychotherapy, Anger management and all other counselling services tend to be gynocentric, it is not beneficial to women as an approach.
Believing that all women are victims of a patriarchal society and thus not responsible for what happens in their life, disempowers women to make healthy changes in their lives. Furthermore, Modern Feminist ideology encourages degenerate behaviour and anything that will destroy Western society. Thus such ‘Help’ is not help at all but rather a means to socially engineer a Feminist dystopia.
This sounds very conspiratorial but nonetheless, it is true.
Modern Feminists have gone beyond the desire for equal opportunity and equal treatment under the law and instead promote the destruction of society through the destruction of patriarchy through the destruction of the nuclear family. Feminism is not what people think it is and is not what any dictionary defines it as. A simple proof of that is that Feminism promotes women’s reproductive rights… A right that men do not have. And women’s reproductive rights, according to Modern Feminism, is the right to kill children through abortion. So women’s rights trump both men’s rights and a child’s right to life. And fundamentally it is the right to act with impunity at the cost of others. Fundamentally, Rights without Responsibility.
This is not healthy for women.